Did you notice that whenever something feels “off,” it’s usually marked by a change in our emotional state? We’ve been taught to fix, suppress, or avoid emotions — especially in children. But what if emotions aren’t the problem at all? What if they’re signals, quietly telling us what the nervous system needs to feel safe, connected, and regulated? When we stop pulling emotional “weeds” and start tending the soil underneath, regulation doesn’t have to be forced — it grows.

What do you notice when a child throws a tantrum? They cry non-stop. They throw all the stuff around. Their body goes limp and sprawl on the ground. They scream at the top of their lungs. They refuse to say anything when asked "What's wrong?" They can't be distracted to do anything else. They don't listen to reasons or respond to treats. They don't want a hug, yet when you don't hug them, they get angrier. Our instinctive response when a child throws a temper tantrum is to sh

We're waiting for an apology and a chance to be seen by our parents. Child: "When I was little, you did that to me. You treated me in...